Tag: nonsims

I know I haven’t been around here for a long time but I am actually still alive.

I miss playing the sims and I miss this community and hopefully I can get back into playing sometime soon. Lately I’ve just been super busy with college (which I started full-time in August) and I’m still working part-time so I only have the weekend free and that’s usually spent playing WoW at the moment so I don’t have time for anything else 😦

But yeah, I just wanted to check in, maybe lurk my dash for a bit and catch up on some peoples’ blogs. Oh and how are people feeling about the new expansion?

I’m currently in a long distance relationship and we haven’t met yet and its been 4 years. I’m scared that if we do meet things wont workout in the end especially because of your story. You’re still young (i’m assuming) so it’s never too late for anything to happen

Since you’re anon and it’s not clear in your message, I’m not sure if you’re looking for support or advice here and not knowing your age or previous experience makes things difficult too but I’m just gonna jump in and answer this as best I can.

I would say that personally 4 years is far too long to be in a relationship with someone and never meeting. I was with my ex for about 7 or so months before we met IRL and I don’t think I could’ve waited any longer than that. 

I’m sure you’ve heard it all before but trust me, things can turn out totally different once you meet and spend time with each other in person. You don’t know what kind of chemistry you’re going to have and if that’s going to work out in the long run. Thankfully things worked out well for my ex and I when we met and we visited each other regularly but it was hard. When we first met it was very awkward for the first few days and every time we met up again it would be awkward for the first few hours of seeing other until it felt ‘normal’.

Again, I don’t know your situation and why you haven’t met up yet but I think it would be best for you to have a sit down and seriously think about where things are going with your partner and meeting up ASAP. I have to be honest here, things might not work out for you. They worked out for my ex and I for 6 years and eventually it came to an end, but that’s ok. I still wouldn’t swap those 6 years for something else and I don’t regret those 6 years being with him. If you’re happy then enjoy it and live in that happiness. But if you have doubts and worries that are on your mind regularly you need to assess them and deal with them because they won’t just disappear.

I am still young and honestly it feels like I’m just starting my adult life for real. Since we split I’ve grown so much as a person, I’ve built so much confidence in myself and my anxiety has gotten so much better. I’m starting college in a couple of months and I just feel so much less stressed and just much happier. 

My point is, even if things don’t work out with your partner it’s not the end of the world. I know it might feel like it would be, I used to think that too but it’s not. Whatever happens anon, you’ll be fine and you’ll get through it ♥

I think you’re right. Your Ex is probably just lonely and thats why he’s coming back to talk to you. Don’t give in unless thats what you want.

I wish I could say it’s what I want because it would make things a lot easier and less scary (he’s the only person I’ve ever been with) but it’s just not. After spending over 6 years together the love I have for him will never go away but it’s not the kind of love that makes me want to be with him. I’m not in love with him anymore and I can’t change that. I feel like us speaking again would also be a step backwards and I don’t want to go down that path.