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I’m currently in a long distance relationship and we haven’t met yet and its been 4 years. I’m scared that if we do meet things wont workout in the end especially because of your story. You’re still young (i’m assuming) so it’s never too late for anything to happen

Since you’re anon and it’s not clear in your message, I’m not sure if you’re looking for support or advice here and not knowing your age or previous experience makes things difficult too but I’m just gonna jump in and answer this as best I can.

I would say that personally 4 years is far too long to be in a relationship with someone and never meeting. I was with my ex for about 7 or so months before we met IRL and I don’t think I could’ve waited any longer than that. 

I’m sure you’ve heard it all before but trust me, things can turn out totally different once you meet and spend time with each other in person. You don’t know what kind of chemistry you’re going to have and if that’s going to work out in the long run. Thankfully things worked out well for my ex and I when we met and we visited each other regularly but it was hard. When we first met it was very awkward for the first few days and every time we met up again it would be awkward for the first few hours of seeing other until it felt ‘normal’.

Again, I don’t know your situation and why you haven’t met up yet but I think it would be best for you to have a sit down and seriously think about where things are going with your partner and meeting up ASAP. I have to be honest here, things might not work out for you. They worked out for my ex and I for 6 years and eventually it came to an end, but that’s ok. I still wouldn’t swap those 6 years for something else and I don’t regret those 6 years being with him. If you’re happy then enjoy it and live in that happiness. But if you have doubts and worries that are on your mind regularly you need to assess them and deal with them because they won’t just disappear.

I am still young and honestly it feels like I’m just starting my adult life for real. Since we split I’ve grown so much as a person, I’ve built so much confidence in myself and my anxiety has gotten so much better. I’m starting college in a couple of months and I just feel so much less stressed and just much happier. 

My point is, even if things don’t work out with your partner it’s not the end of the world. I know it might feel like it would be, I used to think that too but it’s not. Whatever happens anon, you’ll be fine and you’ll get through it ♥

I think you’re right. Your Ex is probably just lonely and thats why he’s coming back to talk to you. Don’t give in unless thats what you want.

I wish I could say it’s what I want because it would make things a lot easier and less scary (he’s the only person I’ve ever been with) but it’s just not. After spending over 6 years together the love I have for him will never go away but it’s not the kind of love that makes me want to be with him. I’m not in love with him anymore and I can’t change that. I feel like us speaking again would also be a step backwards and I don’t want to go down that path. 

I’m just wondering if your past relationship was a long distance one? and it sounds like your ex isnt happy that you’re okay without him

It started out long distance for the first 2 and a bit years, then he moved over here to live with me. 

You could definitely be right about that. I just know there’s no good that could come from us resuming contact. He texted me sometime before Christmas asking if I wanted to go out and I told him that I didn’t think it was a good idea and we should remain no-contact. I’m glad he kept to that so far but it definitely seems like my ex and our friend have been talking about it for this to randomly crop up.

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personal rant below

If you’ve been following me for a while you probably know I broke up with my bf of over 6 years about a year ago now. We have a mutual friend who I’ve started to speaking to a lot more recently as we kind of drifted apart some time ago and hadn’t really talked for a few years.

Anyway, today he randomly asked me if I’d consider being friends with my ex and I said no because it would be too difficult and awkward. He said he wants us to talk again and that we were good together, even if it isn’t a love-relationship anymore and that I “can’t go through life removing someone I once held so dear and special” and that we should at least be friends. I told him I wouldn’t say never but it’s too soon for me right now.

I’m going to assume he’s been speaking to my ex and this is where this has come from because otherwise it’s just totally out of the blue. That makes me really uncomfortable and so does the fact that he said I shouldn’t remove someone from my life that I once loved. Because first of all, it’s nothing to do with him. Second of all, he clearly doesn’t understand how fucking difficult it would be to stay friends with someone you’ve been in relationship with for over 6 years and practically lived the whole beginning of your adult life with. It wouldn’t work. I’m not saying it’s impossible but I’m sure it’s not easy and I don’t want that in my life right now.

Well anyway, he didn’t say anything since I basically said I wasn’t interested, and that was a few hours ago. So I just sent him a random message, being kind of funny and normally he would say something funny back or make fun of me or ask some kind of question. In short, I’d normally get some kind of reaction. But all he’s replied with is “Ok”.

What the fuck? Am I just reading into this too much or is he like, pissed at me for not wanting to remain friends with my ex?? This is absurd and I’m just not going to talk to him until he talks to me because I won’t put up with childish bullshit like that. I would kind of get it if we were all really close and he missed that but guys, the 3 of us haven’t been close for literally years. The first 1 or 2 years of our relationship we were all really close and we’d speak to each other every day. But then we drifted and barely talked for the last few years so what the fuck?

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I’m back from my lunch and I need some more advice, this time about coworkers and boys

Ok so last week a guy came in (I wasn’t there, I was off that day) and presumably my coworker liked him or knew him before that, I don’t really know how it began. But anyway, they ended up going out on a date on Thursday and my coworker was overall a bit disappointed. Not because the date was bad or anything but just because they didn’t seem to have that much in common and were just totally different and my coworker was disappointed because other than that he’s was really nice and good looking too. Basically she’s really into her cars and stuff like that whereas this guy is more into gaming and geeky stuff.

So she was talking about it on Friday and she and another coworker both said I should talk to him instead because they kind of know I’m into that sort of stuff (I don’t talk about it with any of them so I don’t think they quite know the extent to which I’m into ‘geeky’ things…).

And then at the lunch today she was saying that she didn’t meet up with him again and that he’s too geeky for her and has a gaming room but he’s otherwise really nice and another coworker then looked at me and basically said I should go for it.

I am interested but the thing is… How does this work? Were my coworkers, specifically the one who went out with him, being serious when they said I should talk to him? Or was it just one of those things where someone says you should do something but they actually don’t want you to??

And if she did really mean it how the hell do I even start something like that? What do I say to my coworker to get his details without it being awkward? And if I do get his details what the fuck do I say to him???

Maybe I should just forget it, I don’t understand social etiquette like this and I’m too awkward and sfglkjsglk;ndmj,shk